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OK, what do you do with something like this ...

I am the administrator for our local mailing list.  I got this e-mail today.

Subject: Xxxxx guesses he just don't rate

The lil foxy on XXXth st in Queens sighs and notes he's not on the members
list, but figures that's also why no one wanted to come to his burger bash
last summer. Fuck you all then. Take me off your mailing list. Phooey,
phooey, phooey.

I did write him an e-mail explaining that I don't update the member profiles and that he would have to send the info to my webmaster (who is VERY far behind in updating the site).
I suggested that his event may have conflicted with other stuff and that this type of thing happens.  I also gave him the directions to unsubscribe, but told him he would be missed.

He has unsubscribed.

Normally an unsub wouldn't bother me, but the tone of the letter does.  To me it points to one unhappy person.
I do not know this person, I cannot get in touch with him.  I did ask the list in general to check in if they know him.

*sigh*  I guess I can't save the world, eh?


Right. You've done all that a fur can do. That's too bad that that happened. But it's time to move on:P
Saving the world is difficult at best. We can't know how anyone will react. You handled his situation truthfully, and with respect.
As has been said to me many a time...

"What, you expected someone to be understanding and courteous?"

The story of the fox and sour grapes comes to mind, actually.
i never got to meet the said individual
but i think he did have some small issues from reading on the list, it's nothing you can do to really help him

until people actually saw me in person i wasn't really THAT welcome, still don't feel that i am, but i have made some friends outside all that. people that live in boxes they can't see out of tend to get their feelings hurt faster than stranger than those that aren't i think in time he'll be alright :) if he can see past this

I know exactly what you mean. In fact I just got done with a meeting in which I got a 'done by proxy' kick in the teeth for something that up to that point I thought had been well received. In stead the messenger of bad news reported that most of the primary people involved were highly disappointed.

You have done what you could and what you put on the list will hopefully resolve one of the things that might have contributed in some small way to this furs feelings. Saving the world is beyond any of us but showing kindness and thoughtfulness, such as you did in the reply you made, is something we all can do.